April 21, 2009


What is it? What does it mean?

When asking people these simple questions, I get fluffy answers. In some cases people tell me it’s something they will do later or when they are on vacation or when they retire or … Does this mean that the majority of the people are NOT taking any time to RELAX? Right!

Too many think that working hard and making money is the only way to achieve their goals. If that is not enough, they’ll work even harder. How do I know? I’ve been there…working 115 hours/week on average. But no more! I take time to relax now. Every day? Yes, of course. Does that mean I can’t be a super achiever any more? Nope, in fact I get more things done in less time and with more results.

Why? Well, relaxation and creativity go hand in hand. Let me use Roger Hamilton‘s comparison to rowing. Contrary to popular belief, the most important part of rowing is NOT when your oars are hitting the water or are in the water, but when they are in the air! Same thing with relaxation. It’s because you relax, you get more clarity and can become more efficient. And that’s what I learned…the hard way 🙂

So, when I feel stressed, I take some time out to relax. It also helps me to reflect on the issue at hand and diminish its importance by looking at its relativity. We often forget that whatever hurdle is on our path, we ALWAYS have a choice in how to respond to it. And I must say, getting in a relax state of mind always helps me! When relaxing, I look at it from different angles and often get new insights. This relaxes me even more and the practice translates in a happier life where the initial stress disappears magically 🙂

And now the Relax Shortcut: Breathing works best for me. A couple of deep breaths. Deep breathing provides you with extra relaxation and energy. On top of that, deep breathing ensures that the blood is fully oxygenated, powering up your brains, so you can think more clearly. The easiest way to achieve this is my 2-8-4 exercise. If you inhale for 2 seconds, you should hold your breath for 8 seconds, and then exhaling to the count of four. Of course, you can also double (4-16-8) or tripple the amount (6-24-12) when your hartbeat is slowing down and you automatically become more relaxed. Enjoy 🙂

Relax to the max,

Bert Verdonck
Lifehacker & Life Coach

Forget the small stuff!

July 21, 2008

Are you also worked up about things that are not really a big deal, after all? Have you ever noticed how uptight you feel when you’re caught up in your thinking? Once you get in the details of whatever is upsetting you, don’t you feel more absorbed by it? One thought leads to another, and yet another and another one, until at some point, you become incredibly agitated and frustrated?

Here’s news for you : Forget the small stuff!

We tend to focus on little issues and concerns. We blow this “small stuff” way out of proportion. Rather than letting go, we create an imaginary confrontation in our mind. Many of us might even tell someone else about this “stuff”. Why don’t we let it go and go on with our day?

Too many people are spending so much time and energy “sweating the small stuff” that they completely loose touch with the magic and beauty of life. You have more energy and things move ahead much faster if you forget about the small stuff!

How to deal with it? Stop thinking about it! The more attention it gets, the bigger it becomes…Focus on positive thoughts instead. Let these thoughts grow big 🙂 Focus on how grateful you are and keep breathing. Relax and laugh at the small stuff, because it used to upset you, but not anymore! Encourage yourself to think happy thoughts. Think about your holidays, going out with your friends, your relationship, a great movie, etc.

Really enjoy this great stuff every day 🙂 

Bert Verdonck,
Create, Connect & Contribute

Silence please!

June 25, 2008

Silence please!

Learn to be still. Studies show that an average person doesn’t spend even 30 minutes a month in total silence and tranquility. We should develop the skill of sitting quietly, enjoying the powerful silence for at least ten to fifteen minutes a day.

Simply think about what is important in your life. Reflect on your mission in life. Silence is great and peaceful. As the Zen master once said, it is the space between the bars that holds the cage.

Don’t say a word, don’t move, make yourself comfortable and sit still or lay down, close your eyes and enjoy the silence

Enjoy every day,
Bert Verdonck
Create, Connect & Contribute

No stress!

June 15, 2008

We all know that stress is a killer! So, why don’t we stop having stress? It’s not that easy being without stress, right?

Well, to help you destress a bit, I have found an excellent videoclip by Laurent Wolf, No Stress (Lyrics).

Just click to experience the YouTube clip!

Enjoy this clip: great music and funny, stressy situations 🙂

Relax and have fun!!!

Enjoy every day,
Bert Verdonck
Network Creator & Life Hacker