Willingness to Look Foolish

December 1, 2010

Everytime you are on stage or before an audience, several fears sneak up on you. One of them is the fear of “looking like a fool”. The last thing you want to do, whatever it takes, is to look like a fool, right?

Chances are that it will never happen to you! However, if you want to increase the chance of success, I suggest you create a willingness to look foolish. Why? Well, if you are willing to look silly, the fear won’t have a strong impact on you any more. The fear will dry up. And you know what? In case it really happens, you probably will laugh with it, rather than to try to hide it or  to minimize it. By facing our fears, you might be able to solve them!

Let’s take it from another point of view. Can you think about an opportunity that you have missed out, because you were afraid of looking foolish? Perhaps you did not ask for the appropriate advice or you did not approach that big potential client, because you might look silly? Let me ask you another question: To whom do you care about looking silly? What most people are answering me is that they are afraid of looking foolish to people they don’t know (yet)! I get that. I used to be like that too ( and sometimes I still am).  So what you are actually saying is that we don’t do the things we want or we don’t fulfill our dreams because we are afraid of what people whom we don’t know might think!  Wow! They don’t know us, but they are ruling our lives…

You know what? They probably don’t think you are foolish at all! So, why let them take control? Instead think about all the joy and knowledge you are bringing with your message. Of course, you could also remember not to take life so seriously! That’s what I do 🙂